Become Self Aware….

I would like to improve more interactions links that will help the audience capture the message of my post. It would also be more improving if somehow I can incorporate a video or a gif that audience can view.

Social media would be the best place to promote my blog while not just using twitter but where the audience can subscribe so they can get notifications of new posts. I would really like to link it to YouTube to discuss any topic into further detail and in depth.

My best experience this semester was creating a web page on my own and seeing how easy it really is. With more practice and creativity I bet I can create an impressive web page that will sure allow me to find great employment.

The more I am exposed and involved with digital online media the more opportunities will present themselves to me. With an ever growing technology and pop culture this will come in handy.

I do one day wish to run my own business and with the use to developing a web page, using social media for promotional use and creating app tools will benefits my future professionally.

My most popular week was on April 13 with 10 viewers along with my most popular post would be internal dialogue which received a total of 12 views. I believe it was popular due to that it involves very much on an individual positive and negative emotions. How we perceive it and how to think positive.

I was very much surprised how well the site is designed to help spread your thoughts through the web that can reach anywhere in the world. You can follow me on twitter @JustPhamous as I will be posting future blogs on other topics that will help the mind, body, and spirit

Humbleness has been dated back into the biblical days, but it is what we have strayed away from as we grow. Being humble does not mean allowing anyone to walk all over you, have a poor opinion of yourself or be taken for granted. Being humble is about accepting yourself and all the wonderful qualities that you have including your limitations. It is also about recognizing others good qualities and that they are equally valuable as your own. To be humble is something that is not that easy to develop as it takes much skills to reach acceptance of yourself. You are not always right and you do not have all the answers. There are great ways to try to nurture humbleness in one such way try to spend time listening to others. One of the great qualities of being humble is valuing others and allowing them to be heard. Allow them to express themselves, hear out their feelings and values. Remember you are just there to listen and try not to problem solve their issues.

Be present, focus and be mindful in accepting what is rather than jumping to judgment and criticism. The most important key is accepting yourself with all of your faults, rather than focusing on your failures. Never berate yourself for your negative qualities, instead focus on being positive and strive to improve yourself. As you may have heard it before, be grateful for what you have. Take the time to see where you are in life and be thankful for them. It is easy to get into wanting more whether internally or externally. Just take the time to stop and breath. Remember what you are grateful for and this leads to a more positive frame of mind. Ask for help when you need it and seek feedback from others. Never be afraid to ask for help. Set aside your pride. Feedback allows us to improve ourselves.

Follow the link below for more in depth details about humbleness:

https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/humility.html

When we look at gratification it is pleasurable when we fill fulfilled and want it without delay. We have been raised to want things “NOW” instead of waiting. Not all gratification is bad, but when it comes to emotional gratification it can weight in a different way. In an emotional reaction we want the response of happiness with it comes with social needs or socialize, but it strongly points towards approval or recognition. Some people do not see the value of having in waiting or working towards their goals, in which works the same when it comes to socializing. We accept appreciation when we do kind things for a friend, but most times we want the recognition.  We seek approval so much we do not realize that sometimes it is best to think of the kind favors we do is all that is needed. Our minds would fall into despair and would reply wondering why our friends or loved ones have not shown them the gratification they want or deserved. We tend to then hold a grudge towards them or hold on to that specific day and then hold them accountable.

A good example would be in this scenario: A friend would surprise their birthday friend with a birthday party they have been secretly working on for months. When the birthday friend expresses their appreciation in the form of words rather than action, it leaves the mind of the friend who worked so hard on the birthday surprised hollowed. Gratification is missing. Let’s look at this in a different perspective. Let’s say the birthday friend is so appreciated with the surprised they take photos of the wonderful gathering and then post them on social media. The title and hashtags all go towards thanks to the dear friend to worked very hard to have a wonderful birthday surprise. That is gratification fulfillment.

You can find read more in depth about stages of gratification via the link below. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/science-choice/201606/10-reasons-we-rush-immediate-gratification

Lizzie Sargent blog on “Top Self-Help Techniques” was a remarkable article that allows to guide someone to a much betterment in their mental health. The first of “Writing things down” is the oldest technique that allows your mind to switch off your daily worries or to get things off your chest. Abraham Lincoln used the very same technique during the civil war. Being “more mindful” is another powerful tool can be used by an individual rather than using an intervention. The concept of mindfulness is about focusing on the “here and now” and keeping yourself in the moment. This can help someone with anxiety who are constantly worrying about the future and the past. “Taking responsibility” is one topic every person should read once in a while.  We all have trouble taking responsibility of our actions and we struggle carrying them with us. Taking responsibility for how we think and feel will help us change how we respond to our mood. 

“Change your surrounding” the most important of all ten techniques in my opinion. We are all terrified of change because we fear of the unknown. We have be used to our own comfort and change will include uprooting our life pattern. We are going to have to change friends, jobs, location, mood, and so on. It is very much work and many people resist because of what they are letting go knowing full well it is toxic. I enjoyed reading this article as it reflects so much of what I am trying to teach to others about mental health. You must take care of yourself first and for most. Never be afraid of change as with change we can predict the future. I really hope many people read, not only this article but many that are out there. We are here to help. You are not alone.

Finish reading more of Lizzie Top 10 Self-Help Techniques https://lizziesargent.com/2019/10/21/my-top-10-self-help-techniques/

Internal dialogue is part of our daily lives and gives us the ability to reflect about situations. We pay attention more to it than we do to others, in which we apply logic to what is happening here and now. We humans are like a sponge, we absorb emotions. When you are happy it makes you smile, but when you are exposed to negative language with unhappy thoughts it can have an effect on your mood. When you are able to have a positive internal dialogue it can help you feel more optimistic and improve your mood. Hence the saying “think positive thoughts”. When your internal thoughts are always thinking about positive things and not letting the little things upset you, you will be able to manage your mental well-being. Becoming aware of your internal dialogue you must first need to become more aware of it.

Once you become aware of your internal dialogue and the kind of patterns your thoughts, you can now make your first step toward changing them. Coming back to “thinking positively and not negatively” it is easy to fall into the pit of criticizing yourself all the time. There is always room for improvement, but failure should not stop you from achieving success. One way to consciously change negative thoughts, is by focusing on something positive instead. When we fail, do not think about what you have done wrong. Instead think about what you can do differently next time or what you have learned about your failure. We all tend to focus on the past and the future. Try to live and focus in the present. This quiets your internal dialogue a bit and allows you to concentrate on what is happening now.  Lastly another way to help to be more positive is to think what you have to be grateful for.

Learn more on how to have better internal dialogue

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/having-sex-wanting-intimacy/201707/the-power-your-internal-dialogue

Honesty can be misused often as in the form of bluntly saying what you think about others or in a sense “I’m just being honest”. This kind of thought of mind does not dictates that a person is true to him or herself and lives with an understanding of what is right. Those who are truly self-honest are more perceptive, observant and able to look at their own actions from others and have more accountability. Self-honesty is a call for a deeper commitment where someone truly wants to change for the better and with that we must be honest with ourselves. It takes courage and it takes practice that do not just take years but must be constant. This practice is also part of self-healing, especially for those who have had trouble relationships past, present and future. Authenticity plays a huge role in self-honesty as it allows us to move toward healing with ourselves and the world around us. If we want to love, we must be willing to be open with our vulnerabilities and share them with each other.

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Self-honesty is difficult for a good reason. It is about facing the truth of our live which requires to confront the ugliness we deal with. Facing the ugly truth for example, “I am not a great communicator and because of that my relationships do not last” can be hurtful to acknowledge and often self-honesty requires us to change our way that are not working in our lives. We stick to what is familiar to use which makes us feel safe because we are in our own comfort zone, even if not good for us. Why? Because we have to initiate the tough conversation, walking away from toxic relationships, relocating, change jobs, and most importantly old behavior. Self-honest not about changing who you are, but changing for the better. There is always room for improvement.

Look through 25 questions to encourage self-honesty https://www.followyourownrhythm.com/blog-1/2017/11/25/questions-to-encourage-self-honesty-how-to-become-more-honest-with-yourself

Welcome to Selfless Saint Nurse! This is a blog to help people understand emotions, heal, and start fresh with a new self. My name is Jorge, and I am a senior at Texas State University, where I am completing my bachelor’s degree in mass communications. During my own life journey, I have come to an understanding about why pain and failure are so essential for growth. I have failed many times—failed relationships, failed jobs, and a failed education, to name a few. During those dark moments in my life, I just wanted to quit, but then what?

I continued down a cycle where the results were always the same—failure! From my point of view the world was always after me, but it wasn’t the world that was the problem. It was me—I was the problem. I changed relationships, jobs, and educational paths, but what I did not change was myself. I was only jumping from one thing to another, just delaying the inevitable. But I needed to grow mentally, and emotionally. I needed to think positive, set goals, and live my purpose in life.  

So, I began the journey to change who I was inside and out. No longer did I think about what could go wrong and, instead, I started thinking about what could go right. I set realistic goals, from small to large. I viewed my time as a nonrenewable resource. I learned to walk away and never look back. I removed myself from toxic people in my life. I was always willing to learn how to better myself and continue to grow. I mastered the ability to set my standards high and my expectations low. I learned how to identify my emotions and diffuse the negative ones.

Will Smith once said, “You are responsible for your own happiness. Period.” I hope this website will help anyone who feels lost or needs help to better themselves. It is a privilege to be in my life, as it is a privilege for anyone to be in theirs.

Look into these 7 steps to transform your self: https://www.inc.com/nicolas-cole/7-steps-to-transform-yourself-from-who-you-are-to-who-you-want-to-be.html

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